I’ve always been big on finding messages or meaning in the songs that come on the radio. Not quite a sign. Not that they tell me something I needed to know, but more like they affirm something I’d already suspected.
Today, it happened 3 times, in very conspicuous ways…
1. Brick House
This morning, my derby team met with a sports psychologist to outline our goals and overcome some “baggage” that we’d been carrying in terms of anxiety. (Note, if you ever thought derby wasn’t legit: would a “staged” sport integrate sports psychology?) The Dr. helped one girl who was feeling ineffective by asking her to visualize herself with a wall, a big brick wall made up of her team mates. We all instantly started thinking about “brick house”, wiggling in our seats. Partially from the bass line in our heads and partially from anticipation for our home opener in 2 weeks.
Brick House came on the radio on my way home from that meeting.
2. This afternoon, I stopped by the funeral of my ex’s aunt. I won’t go into the very bad history that I have with my ex (we’ll save that for a more cathartic post) but let’s just say that I was there for an hour and all we did was nod to each other. I was just glad that I didn’t get a case of the nerves or the sense of (unwarranted) shame that often comes when I see him. Actually, seeing him just made me feel bad for his mouse of a new girlfriend, because he’s going to chew her up and spit her out, like a soggy pile of dripping chaw. Like he did me several years ago.
Walking out of the funeral home, back straight, feeling myself strong in my stride, I felt like I was leaving a funeral for the sad me, the self-doubting, me. We’ve been done for years, but the insecurity and anxiety has stayed. No more. Burned. Buried. Dust in the ever-loving wind.
Who does he think he is?
3. Proud Mary
Proud Mary is somewhat an anthem to my derby league–Rolling on the River…Big wheels keep on turning…proud mary keeps on Burning!
Tina. Proud Mary. Derby Girls. Me. All examples of women that have it rough-but come out on top. Hard work, aches, pains. But we keep on burning.
If Tina were standing here, I’d have to thank her for the pep talk. Let her know that she did me almost as much good as the morning’s therapy session.